Zen, that is. And I'm biting my tongue instead of ripping people to shreds and using every derogatory name in the book. I'm not new to online communities but I am new to this style of forum. I've been I really do understand the human body and mind, and the fact that Beautiful ladies seeking sex personals jewish dating site we all must face, sexual needs is required for a human to function correctly, and in the healthiest manner. As a male, almost 20 (woot woot! haha), i completely understand, i am chugging on almost 8 months now with no sexual attention. But I've also understood that one must not rush into these things, yes we have our desires and fantasies, and we all want that one sexy female and/or male what ever your sexual preference be. But sex not only is a physical relationship between one and other but also a psychological relationship between one and other. I have had sex twice now in my life, i lost my virginity last year to a rather shall we say needy female. I was pressured into it, and i honestly can say, of the all the wishing i had to have sex i really regret it. It was dull, meaningless, silent sex. Nothing, the only thing i felt was pain in my pelvis after 2 hrs of thrashing it out yes 2 hrs My second time was just as worse except it was a quick hookup, took me 2 hrs still. I personally am very timid, and self conscious of myself, i was bullied at a age so i was always feeling that weight on my shoulders, and i never trusted anyone, which brings me to even more defensive actions, I've been played more times then you blink in a day. I'd also like to add that i'm not giving advice based on religion also. If you want to truly satisfy yourself sexually, go out meet a, a loving one, and release the with someone you know and can trust. I'm single, i'm out looking for a loving female myself. takes time and determination i know there are random hook ups and what not but i think i learned my lesson, and id rather wait out the storm so to speak, then to go running into it. Remember also, its all fun and games until you get hurt, and i really don't want you to get hurt, i have of times. I'd to talk to you and maybe we can talk about your feelings of this past relationship. I understand it hurts and you the bedroom with your ex-partner, but sometimes "Fun" is alot worse then what the word defines itself as. Thanks GentlemenForYou Adult seeking dating MT in chat rooms since the early 90's, and I've engaged in all kinds of discussions with strangers over the years. Then there was Fluther, a site not for the faint of heart. If this is supposed to be a forum for lesbian/bi/queer women, it's wildly crazy to the cat fights over words among people of the same tribe, so to speak. The few who are brutal with their claws make me wonder what is so miserable with their lives that they feel the need to be cruel and rude to others newbies and regs alike. "Out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks" . so what is going on in the hearts of the few who post strongly negative remarks and ratings? I want to be a part of this community, but not at the cost of being a doormat. I'm not a lurker. I'm not the type to shut up and hide if confronted. Zen, to me, is being aware of my surroundings and responding in ways that either diffuse hostility and/or protect my voice. I do not tolerate bullies, whether in or out of our "tribe." I would even defend my "enemy" if said person was the target of a bully.